Reclaiming Your Sacred Femininity: Healing Ancient Wounds to Live with Purpose and Power
Remembering the call of the Goddess from within, and why it matters now more than ever.
There's a stirring happening. Women across the world are awakening to a truth that has been buried for centuries, that within each of us lies an untapped wellspring of Divine Feminine power.
That each of us is, in fact a force, a Goddess in the process of remembering her true essence. A woman in the way of becoming fully embodied as the queen she truly is.
The one meant to shine, take up space, and BE in her fullness, rather than a woman afraid to be seen, afraid to come off as “too much”, or “not enoughh” based on the old standards this world has demanded we measure up to in order to prove our worth when in truth, our worth is undeniable.
And becuase I know this conversation tends to kick up a lot of old emotions, notions, and fears, (to say nothing of misperceptions, and/or lies being perpetuated) around this subject, allow me to clarify that this isn't about rejecting masculinity or embracing stereotypical notions of femininity.
In fact (and I feel like I will have to preface this a lot as I continue to write more about and share more about the Divine Feminine in all her embodied forms), this isn’t a conversation centered around gendered dynamics, BUT I am a healer sho specializes on working with women, so please keep that in mind as we delve deeper into this conversation, because it does matter.
This is a conversations about reclaiming something primal, something sacred that has been systematically suppressed through generations of patriarchal conditioning.
An oppression that has caused generational trauma to skew our perceptions of self, of teh Divine, of the word and the energetics of “feminine” and of our value as women in this world.
This ancestral wounding runs deep in our collective consciousness. It lives in our bodies, in the way we hold ourselves back, in the constant second-guessing, in the apologies that spill from our lips before we've even finished our thoughts. It manifests in the subtle ways we've been taught to make ourselves smaller, quieter, more palatable to a world that fears feminine power in its raw, untamed expression.
The symptoms of this disconnection show up everywhere in modern life though we've been conditioned not to recognize them for what they truly are. We've been taught to attribute our struggles to personal failings or simply "the way things are," rather than seeing them as evidence of a profound spiritual displacement.
But today, I want you to ask the questions:
What if the exhaustion you feel isn't just about your busy schedule?
What if the disconnect you experience isn't just about modern technology?
What if the yearning for something more meaningful isn't just existential angst?
What if these feelings are actually your Divine Feminine essence calling you home?
The Systemic Suppression of the Feminine
For millennia, feminine power has been feared, controlled, and diminished. This wasn't and hasn't been an accidental mishap. The systematic suppression of feminine energy (intuitive, cyclical, creative, communal, and deeply connected to nature and spirit) has created societies built on domination rather than collaboration, extraction rather than regeneration, and separation rather than unity.
The result? A world profoundly out of balance, deeply lacking in intimacy, pleasure, connection, vulnerability, community, respect, accountability, integrity, and receptivity, as well as abundance, love, presence, and the kind of respect that is most often found in realms where a true depth has been reached within the self. (Which, is my poetic way of saying that the deeper we get to know ourselves, the more completely we integrate our shadows, and the more madly in love we fall with our true selves, the more likely we are to live, create, and relish in lives, communities, businesses, relationships, and family units that feel truly nourishing, safe, and long-lasting in this world).
And the most devastating result of all? Women who’ve been systematically disconnected from their most authentic source of power.
When we look at the qualities most associated with feminine energy, such as intuition, embodied wisdom, emotional intelligence, cyclical awareness, and the sacred understanding of both darkness and light as powerful spaces of self-reclamation, growth, and saced in regards to the essence of life itself, we can see how desperately our world needs these gifts right now.
Yet how can women offer these healing balms (or receive them) when we ourselves have been wounded in precisely these areas of our power?
Each of us carries the imprint of this historical suppression in our bodies, our psyches, and our spirits. These aren't just abstract concepts or historical footnotes, they’re living energies that influence how we move through the world, how freely we express ourselves, how deeply we trust ourselves, and how authentically we connect with others.
This disconnection manifests as specific wounds. Archetypal traumas passed down through our collective subconscoius that continue to shape how we show up in the world, how we relate to ourselves, and how we connect with others.
Until we acknowledge and heal these wounds, we remain trapped in patterns that prevent us from embodying our true feminine essence, and while there are a few of these, let’s take this time to take a look at 5 of them.
Five Feminine Wounds Calling us to Break Free and Heal
The Witch Wound
This wound is one that speaks to me very deeply, and it’s an ancient wound that spans through generations and tells a specific story.
One where women who hold wisdom, power, self-authority, and unconventionality (could be through intelligence, beauty, the deeper mysteris, etc) are seen as dangerous, deceitful, deformed, and demonic figures that move in the night and try to kill all that’s good in this world (insert eye roll).
This wound stems from the times when women who displayed intuitive gifts, held spiritual or healing knowledge, or lived outside societal norms were persecuted, tortured, villified, and in the most extreme and terrible of cases, killed.
The witch hunts weren't just historical events they were systematic attempts to sever women's connection to their intuitive power and spiritual wisdom.
How it manifests today:
Fear of fully expressing your truth or standing in your power
Fear, mistrust, and misperception of the Dark Feminine archetypal forms of the Divine Feminine, as well as the deeper mysteries.
Diminishing your intuitive abilities or spiritual gifts
Constant self-doubt when you receive intuitive insights
Fear of being seen as "too much" or "weird"
Hesitation to trust your inner knowing over external authorities
The healing of the witch wound comes through reclaiming your intuitive gifts without apology. It's about trusting the wisdom that flows through you and honoring it as your birthright. It's embracing your uniqueness as your power rather than something to hide.
The Sacred Slut Wound
Have you ever heard that story of a woman who desired to know more, and in her pursuit, doomed the whole of the world to misery by tempting a man into his own downfall (enter gagging sounds) yeah, that whole narrative has been utilized as a weapon to keep women quiet, underfoot and “well behaved” for a long, long time.
And in our society, with its obsession with purity culture, and puritanical belief systems, this wound is one that we all know intimately in one way or another.
Further, this wound emerges from the demonization of female sexuality and the virgin/whore dichotomy that has controlled women's sexual expression for centuries.
When sexuality became something to control rather than a sacred life force, women lost connection to one of their most powerful creative energies.
How it manifests today:
Shame around sexual desires and pleasure
Disconnection from your body and its wisdom
Using sexuality for external validation rather than authentic expression
Fear of being fully sensual and expressed
Struggle to maintain boundaries in intimate relationships
Attaching external worth to how “good” or “pure” you are
Healing the sacred slut wound involves reclaiming your body, falling in love with yourself, and reclaiming your pleasure, sensuality and sexuality as your sovereign territory and your most sacred, creative force.
It means embracing pleasure without shame and expressing your sensuality in ways that feel authentic rather than performative.
The Sister Wound
“ Divinde and conquer” - this, is the main expression of this wound, and I am here to tell you (until I’m blue in the face if I need to) that you are not meant to compete with, fear, belilttle, or isolate yourself from other women.
Quite the opposite is true, in fact.
The sister wound formed when patriarchal systems pitted women against each other, creating competition where there should have been collaboration. By dividing women, these systems ensured we would never unite in our full collective power.
How it manifests today:
Constant comparison with other women
Judgment of women who make different choices than you
Difficulty forming deep, trusting friendships with other women
Feeling threatened by other women's success or beauty
Seeking male approval over female solidarity
The healing journey for the sister wound involves cultivating genuine sisterhood and collaboration. It means celebrating other women's victories as your own and creating spaces where all women can thrive without competition or comparison.
The Crone Wound
Obsessed with looking young forevermore?
Afraid to become the “old maid” or the “cat lady”
Hiding your intellect or inner knowing because you don’t want to be judged?
This is for you ;-)
This wound emerged from the devaluation of women as they age and the loss of respect for elder wisdom. In indigenous and ancient cultures, elder women were revered for their wisdom and insight. In modern society, aging women often become invisible.
How it manifests today:
Fear of aging and changing appearance
Dismissing the wisdom that comes with experience
Chasing youth rather than embracing maturity
Feeling invisible or irrelevant after a certain age
Disconnection from the cyclical nature of life
Healing the crone wound means honoring the wisdom that comes with age and experience. It's about recognizing that your value increases (rather than diminishes) as you gather years of insight. It means becoming the wise woman who stands in her power regardless of societal expectations.
The Mother Wound
Perhaps the most pervasive wound, the mother wound stems from both personal mother-daughter dynamics and the collective devaluation of mothering energy. This wound affects how we nurture ourselves and others, how we create, and how we relate to abundance.
How it manifests today:
Difficulty receiving care and nurturance from others
Perfectionism and never feeling "good enough"
Struggle with appropriate boundaries
Over-giving to the point of depletion
Challenges with creative expression and bringing projects to fruition
The healing path for the mother wound involves learning to mother yourself with the tenderness and fierce protection you may have missed. It means balancing giving and receiving and honoring your creative capacity in all its forms—not just biological motherhood.
The Path of Self-Reclamation Beyond the Wounds of Old
Healing these wounds isn't just personal work, it's revolutionary, and it is imperative FOR US ALL. When women reclaim these aspects of feminine power, they transform not only their own lives but also the collective consciousness.
The reclamation process involves:
Awareness: Recognizing how these wounds manifest in your specific life
Compassion: Holding space for the grief and anger that arises when acknowledging these wounds
Integration: Working with shadow aspects and rejected parts of self
Embodiment: Bringing healed feminine energy into everyday actions and choices
Community: Finding and co-creating circles of women doing similar healing work
This isn't a linear process. It's cyclical, like the feminine herself.
You may find yourself revisiting certain wounds at deeper levels as you spiral through your healing journey.
Living from Reclaimed Feminine Power
When you begin healing these wounds and reclaiming your divine feminine essence, life transforms in profound ways:
You trust your intuition as your most reliable guidance system
Your relationships become more authentic and nourishing
Your creativity flows without the constraints of perfectionism
You experience pleasure and abundance as your natural state
Your work in the world aligns with your soul's purpose
You move through life cycles with grace rather than resistance
You stand in solidarity with other women rather than competition
This isn't about becoming something new—it's about returning to what you've always been beneath the conditioning. It's about remembering the power that is your birthright.
Practical Steps to Begin Your Reclamation
Create sacred space for self-reflection: Set aside time daily to connect with your inner wisdom through meditation, journaling (though this is not the only path through), or other contemplative practices.
Explore your personal wounds: Which of these wounds resonates most deeply with you? Begin gently investigating how it manifests in your life.
Reclaim feminine rituals: Connect with cyclical living by tracking your menstrual cycle or the moon phases and honoring the different energies of each phase.
Cultivate authentic sisterhood: Seek relationships with women who are committed to lifting each other up rather than competing. (May I encourage you to look for a women’s circle near you? - seriously, you will not regret it)
Study feminine wisdom traditions: Explore spiritual and cultural traditions that honor feminine principles and practices.
Embody your sensuality: Practice being present in your body through dance, sensual movement, or mindful awareness of your senses.
Honor your boundaries: Practice saying no to what depletes you and yes to what nourishes you.
Celebrate feminine archetypes: Work with goddesses, historical figures, or other embodiments of feminine power that call to you.
The journey of reclaiming your divine feminine essence isn't always easy. It requires courage to face these wounds and commitment to heal them. But on the other side of this healing lies a life of authentic power, pleasure, and purpose—a life where you no longer diminish yourself to fit into a world not designed for your full expression.
Your reclamation is not just for you. As you heal, you create ripples that help other women remember their power too. This collective remembering is what will ultimately restore balance to our world.